So I've been thinking a lot about this lately with the disappearance of blogs and bloggers around the blogsphere and even as I've noticed in myself that I've been more burnt out lately, are we as bloggers getting lacked in our blogging and commenting? And what does this mean as bloggers, commentors, and readers if so?
Let me explain myself a bit more before I go into the discussion part of this post, just so I'm more clear on what exactly I'm asking here.
When we as bloggers visit other blogs and comment do we expect something in return? Whether that be a response to our comment on their blog or a return visit to ours because we commented on theirs?
Let's be brutally honest here, how many of you are willing to spend time visiting other blogs, reading their thoughts and reviews, taking the time to comment and not have said blogger either respond back to your comment or even, let's say, visit your blog in return? Are we expecting too much when this doesn't happen? Is it selfish to think that sometimes we might only comment on other's blog so that they in return will visit and comment on ours?
I'm not saying there is a right or wrong answer here so let's get that out there first but truly, what are our expectations when it comes to visiting other blogs?
Are we always doing it out of the kindness of our hearts and because we really just think that blog is amazing or do we have ulterior motives?
My brutally honest answer to this is, I think I do both and I don't think I necessarily like that about myself. I didn't start visiting other blogs just so they would visit mine, in fact, I visited them simply because I enjoyed their reviews, recommendations and their opinions about other things that they may have discussed on their blogs. I commented not expecting anything in return because who was I but a lowly commentor after all. But I think somewhere along the way, maybe when I started my own blog, things changed a bit.
I won't lie, I love when people comment on my blog. It means someone out there is actually reading what I say and cares enough to stop by and say so. It's a great feeling and because I appreciate it, I reply back to them, because I really DO appreciate that they took the time to read what I wrote and say something about it, even if they don't agree with what I had to say, that's okay, they are still reading it and visiting anyways. for me, it's respectful for me to acknowledge that they took the time to stop by and yes, if I see that they too have a blog, I will visit theirs in return. Why? Because I also believe in paying back their kindness and seeing what they have to say about certain books and things as well. Do I have to do this? No but I do anyways.
But somewhere along the way of doing this, did I start expecting others to do the same?
Do we as bloggers expect others to do the same as well?
I guess, this is what I want to discuss. If you visit a blog and take the time to read the content and then comment on it, do you expect the blogger to at the very least, respond back to your comment? Do you even care if they do? And if you do comment, do you want them to stop by and visit your blog as well and leave a comment on yours because you did on theirs?
Is it right to expect that? Is it common courtesy or selfishness on our part?
And the biggest question of all is this, if your do visit blogs, comment and then never get a response back from them on your comment or have them visit your blog in return, do you keep visiting them? Do you take the time to comment when it seems like they could care less that you did?
Truly there are no right or wrong answers here, I'm just super curious what your thoughts are about this. What is the protocol? Is there one?
I certainly don't want to cause any hard feelings or negativity of any kind, that isn't what this post is suppose to be about it truly is me, picking your brain here and wanting to know what you think about it too. Have you ever thought about it? Do you have an opinion on it?